Ask the meditators!

At my friend Jan Lundy’s request and for all the readers of Meditate like a Girl I answered this very important question. 🙂


6 thoughts on “Ask the meditators!

  1. I really appreciate the advice to “be your own instructor.” Having spent a lot of time reading other peoples books and words and methods, meditation seems kind of overwhelming to even start. But your answer to the question makes it much simpler.

    Why is it that we don’t think we have the answers within our own hearts? Somewhere along the line we have been convinced that we aren’t (…..fill in the blank…) enough to know what to do.

    And that is hard to overcome.

    I look forward to reading more!

    1. I think we are programmed to follow someone else’s guidance, Deborah. That’s how we learn a lot as children and it’s good and fine but comes a point where we need to integrate all that we have learned, and make it our own. That’s what I did with meditation. I’m sure I would not last long on a cushion in a monastery but that’s ok. It’s my practice and it works for me. Everyone can do this.

  2. I love the story of your son’s swimming instructor! What a patient and wise person he was. I can’t meditate like I’ve been told to do, so it makes me feel good to hear that you do your own thing, and that it works just fine.

  3. Benedicte

    Comme tout cela est juste, Maryse … La très sage Pema Chödrön ne dit pas autre chose mais, oserais-je le dire, ta réponse me touche plus. Merci pour ce partage.

  4. Great advice Maryse. Sometimes we doubt our own ability to do something because it’s not the way other people do it or the way we are ‘supposed’ to do it but as you say, following our own natural intuition and instincts to find what works best for us is definitely the best way 🙂

  5. ‘ I focused on my breath or on visualizing a peaceful place. It took some time and it’s still evolving but I’m now most comfortable with evoking a memory of love and breathing gratitude in and out. It’s my way. And if anxiety shows up, I surround it with that love and let it be. It doesn’t threaten me because I’m happy with my practice. I own it.’

    Couldn’t agree with you more, Maryse. For me, every meditation has to have a loving, compassionate presence/witness to my experience. Your words are like lamps in the darkness of doubt, relying on your own wisdom, your own experience to guide you.

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